Trust is the bedrock of any healthy relationship. When it’s damaged, the entire relationship can feel shaky.
Sources of Trust Problems
- Past betrayals or infidelity
- Consistent broken promises
- Lack of emotional or physical availability
- Secrecy or lack of transparency
- Unresolved past traumas
How Trust Issues Affect Relationships
- Create constant tension and anxiety
- Lead to excessive jealousy or controlling behaviours
- Hinder intimacy and vulnerability
- Cause second-guessing of partner’s actions and words
- Make it difficult to plan for the future together
Gottman’s Trust-Building Methods
Dr. Gottman’s research has identified key elements in building and maintaining trust:
- Attunement: Being aware of your partner’s needs and responding to them
- Transparency: Being open and honest about thoughts, feelings, and actions
- Turning Towards: Consistently responding to your partner’s bids for connection
- Commitment: Showing loyalty and prioritising the relationship
Exercises for Rebuilding Trust
- Trust Revival Method: Daily check-ins to discuss concerns and appreciations
- Emotional Transparency Exercise: Practice sharing vulnerable feelings
- Gottman’s Stress-Reducing Conversation: A daily 20-minute chat about life outside the relationship
- Past Experiences Exploration: Discuss how past relationships have shaped your views on trust
When to Seek Professional Help
Consider therapy if:
- Trust issues persist despite your efforts
- You’re struggling to forgive past betrayals
- Jealousy or suspicion is affecting daily life
- You want to trust but find it difficult
Restore Trust in Your Relationship
Rebuilding trust takes time and effort, but it’s possible. I can guide you through this process, helping you create a stronger, more secure bond.
