Intimacy is the glue that holds relationships together. When it fades, couples often feel disconnected and unfulfilled.
Causes of Intimacy Issues
- Stress and busy lifestyles
- Unresolved conflicts
- Health problems or medications
- Emotional distance
- Lack of communication about needs and desires
How Lack of Intimacy Affects Relationships
- Decreases overall relationship satisfaction
- Can lead to feelings of rejection or loneliness
- May cause partners to seek connection elsewhere
- Often results in increased conflict
- Can mask deeper relationship issues
The Gottman Method’s Approach
Dr. Gottman’s research shows that intimacy is built on a foundation of friendship and emotional connection:
- Build Love Maps: Deepen your knowledge of each other’s worlds
- Express Fondness and Admiration: Cultivate a culture of appreciation
- Turn Towards: Respond positively to bids for connection
- Create Shared Meaning: Foster a sense of purpose together
Techniques and Exercises
- The 6-second Kiss: A daily ritual to increase physical affection
- Appreciation Exercise: Share three things you appreciate about your partner daily
- Intimacy Inventory: Discuss and align on intimacy needs and desires
- Sensate Focus: A series of touching exercises to rebuild physical intimacy
When to Seek Help
Consider professional guidance if:
- Intimacy issues persist despite your efforts
- There’s a significant mismatch in intimacy needs
- Physical intimacy has ceased entirely
- You feel uncomfortable discussing intimacy with your partner
Revive Your Intimate Connection
Restoring intimacy is possible with the right tools and guidance. I can help you reconnect on a deeper level.
