Effective communication is the lifeline of any relationship. When it breaks down, conflicts arise and intimacy suffers.
Signs of Poor Communication
- Frequent misunderstandings
- Escalating arguments
- Stonewalling or shutting down
- Criticism and defensiveness
- Feeling unheard or misunderstood
How Communication Issues Affect Relationships
- Create emotional distance
- Lead to resentment and frustration
- Decrease intimacy and satisfaction
- Make problem-solving difficult
- Erode trust over time
The Gottman Method’s Approach
Dr. Gottman’s research reveals key elements for healthy communication:
- Soft start-up: Begin conversations gently
- Accept influence: Be open to your partner’s perspective
- Repair attempts: Learn to de-escalate conflicts
- Active listening: Truly hear and validate your partner
Techniques and Exercises
- The Speaker-Listener Technique: Take turns speaking and listening without interrupting
- “I” Statements: Express feelings without blame
- Emotional Bids: Recognise and respond to your partner’s attempts to connect
- State of the Union Meeting: Regular check-ins to discuss relationship issues
When to Seek Help
Consider professional guidance if:
- You feel stuck in negative communication patterns
- Arguments frequently become heated or hurtful
- You’re unable to discuss important issues
- You feel consistently misunderstood or unheard
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