Expressing appreciation is a powerful tool for strengthening your relationship. It builds fondness and admiration, key components of a lasting partnership.
Why It Matters
- Counteracts negativity bias
- Increases feelings of value and respect
- Encourages more positive behaviours
- Improves overall relationship satisfaction
How to Practice
- Be specific: “Thanks for making dinner” is good, “I appreciate how you made my favourite dish when I had a tough day” is better.
- Express regularly: Aim for at least one genuine expression of appreciation daily.
- Notice small things: Appreciate everyday actions, not just grand gestures.
- Use “I” statements: “I appreciate…” or “I’m grateful for…” makes it more personal.
Exercise: Appreciation Journal
- Each day, write down three things you appreciate about your partner.
- At the end of the week, share your lists with each other.
- Discuss how it feels to give and receive appreciation.
Common Pitfalls
- Being vague or general
- Only appreciating big actions
- Forgetting to express appreciation regularly
- Using appreciation manipulatively
Remember, genuine appreciation builds a culture of respect and fondness in your relationship.
