Emotional bids are attempts to connect with your partner. Responding positively to these bids strengthens your relationship.
Why It Matters
- Builds emotional connection
- Increases feelings of support and understanding
- Prevents feelings of rejection or neglect
- Contributes to relationship stability
How to Practice
- Recognize bids: They can be verbal, physical, or emotional.
- Respond positively: Engage, show interest, or offer support.
- Be present: Put away distractions to notice bids.
- Repair missed bids: If you miss a bid, acknowledge it and reconnect.
Types of Bids
- Verbal: Comments, questions, invitations to talk
- Physical: Touch, gestures, facial expressions
- Emotional: Seeking support, sharing feelings
Exercise: Bid and Response Practice
- For one day, consciously note all bids from your partner.
- Record how you responded (turned towards, away, or against).
- Discuss your observations with your partner.
Common Pitfalls
- Ignoring subtle bids
- Consistently turning away due to distractions
- Responding negatively when stressed
- Assuming your partner should ‘just know’ what you need
Remember, consistently turning towards your partner’s bids creates a strong foundation of connection in your relationship.
